I guess it is but natural for kids to have this change fright, them wanting and needing permanence in relation to security. That each change in their routine, common practice, or simply their world is stressful and necessitating adjustment.
I have proven this time and again like her opposing to transfer in country , or even just residence, or even as minimal as her not wanting her things given away.
As adults, it is but fitting for us to understand this anxiety in them. Let us be perceptive to the possible effects this will bring them, and do appropriate measures to let it be subtle and tolerable for them. Be sensitive to the need to talk it out to them, tell them of the importance of it. Make them understand, but also be firm in letting them know that it is a decision made already.
I DON’T! But my daughter does! And her dad, and her aunt, and her great-grand dad as well. In this line of thought, it says that it is hereditary. It amazes me, this part of creation…the genetic make-up. Truly magnificent work of art! Or it is common to kids, and most of the time fades away as one grows older?
In fact it is funny that my Anya can sleep with one leg crossed the other, as if she’s just sitting down in a couch cross legged. And that came from one maternal granddad and my sib.
I’m glad though that she’s not sleep walking! That’s different, and dangerous! That reminds me, my granddad also talked in his sleep and it is dangerous sometimes...FOR MY GRANDMOM who have to be alert when he is dreaming of fist fights! ;)
36-24-36. My dream vital statistics which can never come true, but can come close to it at least by reaching the 24. And Belly Dancing is one of the popular ways of achieving the said tinny-weenie waist line according to most; though it is not a common knowledge that losing those flabs is not per point basis. That one has to work out and lose total weight, and as you go along, lose that “blousy” belly’s (hahaha, yeah not tucked in!)
But aside from that goal, it really is something of a challenge…because belly dancing can NOT be done by just any one. And you doing it is just kindda sexy to the extreme. Imagine what you will wear as you do that! A truly sensual dance, don’t you think?
Being in the medical field and a mother, it has been instilled in me to have foresight to possible emergency events and being aware of what the FIRST AIDE needed to preserve a life, may it be my daughter or any adult. Thus, precautions are always seen to because I believe in PREVENTION than CURE! But we still can never tell when an emergency can occur so we should also be aware of what to do if the inevitable came.
One very traumatic experience I had this luck of encountering several times in my life is the Choking that my younger sibling seems to prefer scaring me with since she was a little girl. Almost always, it is a hard candy that get passed her outer mouth and goes straight to her air duct causing her to choke and not being able to breathe. It even happened once again in her teens but with a chunk of meat that she was not able to chew very well. The very first time it happened, my father have already given us instructions on what to do incase it happens to anyone in our presence.
In little kids, a little tap between her capula (upper back) can do the trick. NOT the nape nor back of head! It is a sensitive area that may cause more harm than not.
I remembered my 50 or 60 something grandmother doing just that when my sister, just a few inches shorter than her, choked on a whole candy, WHILE on her other hand holding my sister upside down! That’s what we call the fight-and-flight-reaction our body releases in times of emergency situations. That’s when we do unrealistic things in the very spur of that moment which we can never do in a normal situation. Funny but true!
Another thing to do, even in adults, is by grabbing from the back and pushing stomach upward with both hands to push the air up as well together with whatever is blocking the air duct.
Just as it was in the movie Mrs. Doubtfire when Pierce Brosnan choked on his dinner and lead actor saved him by that very action of pressing tummy from behind, pumping up until finally it shoots out of his mouth.
When my daughter was a mere infant, it is common occurrence for her to throw up after taking in her fill of milk. The terrifying thing is, it all come out from her mouth and her nose. Thus there’s no other way for her to take in air causing her to wiggle and turn blue. It is in a split of second that I have to squeeze out milk in her nostrils by pinching the nose bridge downwards. Good thing it always worked. But I learned other ways when in case it won’t work. HEAR THIS ALL MOMMA’S WITH THE SAME PROBLEM! You have to go to the nearest bed or couch, somewhere lower than you to put your left foot on, and in that leg, place the infant face down to making her at a 45 degrees angle for the milk to flow down. With your left hand hold her feet tightly securing her safety from slipping down, and with your right tap her back to help gravity in removing milk in her nostrils.
It scares me to think that this will ever happen to my daughter again; thus do not give her whole pieces of candies or too big pieces of food for her to choke on. But in case it does happen, we have to at least try our very best to do it ourselves and not rely on calling for help and let others do it. Remember, it only takes a few minutes for people to live without breathing, and that may be the time it will take you to find someone to assist you!
One of the most misunderstood notion in the present time is the pity we give to singles or spinsters, or in a lay man’s term Old Maid’s.
How can we pity someone who chooses that very life we pity them from living? Have we ever asked our self, does she prefers the chaotic life of being married or living in peace? Or maybe the responsibility of raising children or simply helping if can be in raising her nieces and nephews? Are they so unlucky to be having in the palm of her hands the time that parents or wives seek for even just for a day?
It is their own choosing not to give themselves to a man who they think will only use them, or to a man who they don’t feel they can love. Lucky are they who are the wiser when it comes to sticking to what they believe will be best for them. Fortunate are they to have recognized what they really want. They are women who uses their head where it is due and not their hearts that will eventually break if not careful. They follow how God placed the heads above the hearts and not the other way around.
And so, CHEERS to all spinsters for having the strength to live on their own and being happy about it!
I'm sure every female's top concern includes their appearance...and our crowning glory is one that needs to be perfectly suited to us.
I have always preferred long hair, but then there comes a time that I wanted to look different. But then it gives me a sudden problem at hand with that thought because I don't really know how i would look with other hair styles. That's why I am so happy to have encountered this site
daily make over. Thanks to the
fashion lurve I can go try this and that to match my face shape and preference.
Kids of certain age group have similar likes and dislikes when it comes to food preferences. Generally, they love fried chicken, spaghetti, chocolates and sweets. But there also is the term individuality that makes each child unique.
And there are times that unexpected reasons were behind unusual indifference to certain food. I actually have just thought of this when this afternoon my daughter who loves peanut butter sandwiches suddenly had an aversion for it:
I heard this usual request of wanting a peanut butter sandwich spread “evenly” in a slice of bread without one tiny white portion uncovered by it; and that the bread be left laying open and not folded as I do mine. After handing it over to her, she ate with her usual gusto as I continued with my pocketbook reading. A few minutes after, I saw her literally drop it onto her plate and faced me with quivering lips and croaking voice saying that it is very painful when she bit the bread AND HER MIDDLE FINGER!!!
I almost wanted to laugh out loud with that silly remark, but hid the smile even in my voice and kissed the red tip of her tiny finger. Soothing her with the mothers warm hug and cuddling, she calmed down only to sob once again when I teased her how delicious her finger is (can’t resist it, okay?!)…said she doesn’t want to finish the bread, but hopefully it won’t be a reason for her to have a grudge with the peanut butter sandwich she so loved! Pretty traumatic for her no doubt….
And so, circumstances like such may be the same reason your kid may be have odd repugnance to delightful chows =)
“I wanted to be like you” has a great impact on me today…
· I put on my day dress and started my household chores for today while my little girl sleeps on. The minutes turned into hours, and finally at 9, I saw two little brown eyes peeking at me from the other side of my under-the-table gathering of dominoes that may have been kicked sometime last night. I stood up smiling and it broke into a wider grin when I saw a little lady in a day dress of her own all tangled around her obviously not worn the right way saying “pareho tayo naka-dress mom” (we’re both wearing dress mom”). Seems like she was up a awhile ago without me noticing.
· Lunch time ended up with the same concept when that same little girl asked to have her sippy cup replaced with her own plastic cup for a drink of “cold” water just like moms, “pareho tayo inom sa baso” (“we’re both drinking in glasses”) and sweetend with a dimpled smile and a demand for a toast for cheers of our glasses.
· It’s not the end of it mind you…because after nap time (which she did not take at all) I found a little foor propped up beside ine in our couch as I painted my toe nails. No words was said but the toes wiggling with her eyebrows…I hear her though loud and clear “ako din mom” (“me too mom!”)
This may seem common to kid her age to imitate a parent, but it always is heart warming if it is your own kid saying “i wanted to be just like you!”
It’s amazing how my kiddo loves to play this “mansion” she asks her caregiver to play with her every single day since she got hold of this set of collectors item princesses my aunt gave her. It’s just a simple play-house, a big one at that, and that’s the reason she calls it mansion, using small books and boxes as walls and couches.
At times like this, I try to observe unnoticed and enjoy the simplicity of a kids’ life and of what makes them ultra happy. Imagine, everyday?! In fact, sometimes twice a day even, and it takes up almost half of her day playing it.
How nice it is to be a kid once again, right? I miss such uncomplicated daily living.
I have long heard of this certain area in almost every mall, where mom’s going to the grocery or do some shopping would leave their kids to the care of a certain establishment primarily for this purpose. It was said to have started somewhere else broad to which the country emulated.
And I can say that this Wonderland that I have recently seen is pleasing enough to let my li’l one stay, but accompanied and NOT left behind. The kids definitely will enjoy it as treat to stay in such place. Toys of different kind and size can be used the moment she enters. There’s an area for girls with the toy kitchen and dolls; there’s the basketball area and computer games for boys; and there’s the common area with the slides, kiddie cars to ride, and assorted manipulative toys. I myself had this urge to play for it all brings out the kid in me.
There are certain disadvantages to consider though that I hope other parent will also take into account. The very first thing that crossed my mind is the possible contagious diseases that may be putting your child at a risk of acquiring. Another is the safety of your kid with all the toys laying around and other kids that may be playing roughly; though they have their own attendants in charge to see to the kids safety, I still prefers to have Anya’s own look out. And last but definitely the least is my fear of leaving my own kid behind (and even of other kids welfare) to the possible evil deed of mankind, kidnapping. They have varying ways and methods that MAY trick the company or even the personal carer into handing over my kid. I’m sure you have heard of some modus like pretending of the parents accident and demanding the kids presence, or that they may have the claim card for the kid that the company provides each parent before they can pick up the kid. Things of sort that is very common in this crazy world we now live in.
And so…Wonderland is really nice, but as for me, I still advice the parent NOT TO LEAVE THEIR KIDS BEHIND.
HELLO WORLD =)
I’m so happy to tell you that I’m finally back, and that I terribly missed blogging and my blogger friends.
HOPE YOU’RE ALL STILL THERE, because you’re the reason I keep coming back. If you can notice, my ”blog-mates” have been edited posting your names and identifying sites which are closer to my heart than just your websites…at the same time reviewing them for inactive ones BUT I admit that IT WASN’T SO EASY and so
PLEASE LET ME KNOW IF YOUR NAME WAS UNINTENTIONALLY MISPLACED. I can put it right back in a few strokes, please let me know right away, okay?! No offence friends, peace!
It’s been a while and I tried my best to heal whatever threats I had…I wonder why of all sites…mine was chosen by a hacker to pester. I hope to be rid of them evil-doers FOREVERRRRRRRRRRR!!! Shooooo! Leave me to my simple happiness of making other people happy just reading my posts…and better yet of the friendship created in this World of Blogging.
Let me then end this by saying
THANK YOU to all those who have followed me through for almost a year now, for those who drops by every so often, for all commentors who shares with me their thoughts and their time and for all who have became as dear to me as I am to them!
SEE YOU ALL AGAIN HERE IN MY SITE…
HELLO FRIENDS! i need help with my site!!!
if you can notice, it's been a while since i last visited my site...please understand that i am at the moment trying to do some html checking for fear of spammers and hackers.
don't be alarmed if at this moment you will not see YOUR links in my blogroll, which i have
temporarily deleted BUT i promise to restore soon. i apologize and i hope this will not affect our connections and friendship.
i'll be back as soon as i can. please do not hesitate to email me at
jeniortizxv@gmail.com for any message you wanted for me to read sooner.
TO ALL WHO CONTINUOUSLY DROPS BY THANK YOU; AND to those who wanted to be linked back I PROMISE TO GET BACK TO YOU=)
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