I have seen kids as young as 3 years old starting school. I thought it's too early. For me, they may not be ready yet...and that its preferable that they truly want to go and start already. After all, once they start schooling, it will be after college before it finally ends.
There are some parents who make them go even though they seem hesitant yet. That's why there are many who are stressed with it. The children cry and the parents at wits end. On both sides, it is stressful.
Children will actually be eager for it if they are prepared for it. They will seek for it themselves and will truly enjoy. There will be no stress, there will be no untoward effects to them as compared to those dragged to school. It is just a matter of talking to them at an early age about school, giving them ideas of how enjoyable it is there, and compromise as to when they will start. In my case, two years prior to the time I believe it is best that she start, I mentioned school. A year before, I asked her though I knew she still will be hesitant just so we can agree and compromise that next year she will. She is prepared, my kid.
And there is no single stress even the very first day. She is excited, eager and very happy. I AM TRULY A PROUD MOMMA because I know I raised and is raising her well. This photo here is her very first day and she is the very first to respond to the teachers question. She truly is ready =) And may I add, she is the only first timer in her class but she is more attentive, more participative and even smarter than some (wink!)
Seeing children playing around gives this undefined warmth to people. If you happen to be passing out time at the mall...it takes longer for you to get bored if you watch them goofing around with each other, playing alone with something so simple but they find truly interesting, or even just to see two tiny people conversing in their own way, in their own world. They look so innocent, so vulnerable that we somehow have this feeling of wanting to protect them...and in the same manner we have this tiny longing to be in their world where the greatest worry alone is how to make that set of blocks stand firm and not fall.
So little, so fragile. All we want to do is to please them and see those wonderful smile or hear the contagious giggling. BUT its not always sunshine...there also is a gloomy day after all. If they have their up's they also have their down's. And if you are a parent this is when you can most identify the "parent in the child". If it is your kid, this is when you see yourself in your kid. At this time you can see how they react to things. This is when you get to analyze if you were good enough in raising and training them or if you are failing and needs to reassess your methods.
Remember always that you are their mentor, you are their inspiration. Therefore who you are and what you are reflects on them. If you are always stressed and difficult, they will be stressed and difficult as well. If its always anger and punishment given them, they will also be angry all the time and be defensive for your treatment of them. But if you are calm, if you are more of a teacher than a "punisher", if you would talk to them, if you would behave as you want them to behave...you will witness learning. You will see the appropriate feedback, you will recognize proper upbringing.
They will be the image of what you are.
It is not the child to be blamed for how they turn out to be but
those who raised and guided them. There may be factors like your neighbors, their classmates, their friends...but then again, you should know better. They will exist and you have to make your child learn how to live with them but not necessarily be like them. And it will all depend on the foundation...and that will be DEPENDENT ON YOU. He is your child and not your neighbors child. You molded him to who he became to be. You deserve all the pat on the back (or all the blame).
“I wanted to be like you” has a great impact on me today…
· I put on my day dress and started my household chores for today while my little girl sleeps on. The minutes turned into hours, and finally at 9, I saw two little brown eyes peeking at me from the other side of my under-the-table gathering of dominoes that may have been kicked sometime last night. I stood up smiling and it broke into a wider grin when I saw a little lady in a day dress of her own all tangled around her obviously not worn the right way saying “pareho tayo naka-dress mom” (we’re both wearing dress mom”). Seems like she was up a awhile ago without me noticing.
· Lunch time ended up with the same concept when that same little girl asked to have her sippy cup replaced with her own plastic cup for a drink of “cold” water just like moms, “pareho tayo inom sa baso” (“we’re both drinking in glasses”) and sweetend with a dimpled smile and a demand for a toast for cheers of our glasses.
· It’s not the end of it mind you…because after nap time (which she did not take at all) I found a little foor propped up beside ine in our couch as I painted my toe nails. No words was said but the toes wiggling with her eyebrows…I hear her though loud and clear “ako din mom” (“me too mom!”)
This may seem common to kid her age to imitate a parent, but it always is heart warming if it is your own kid saying “i wanted to be just like you!”
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