More and more you see bachelors and spinsters these days. Gone were the days when it is normal to see teenagers get married and have kids. Now it's more of the mid to late 20's and even more common are the 30's and above allowing themselves to be shackled.
MAJOR REASON is how people know that it is not easy to live by anymore. Its getting harder and harder to find jobs and be stable enough to care for oneself, what more of another and a whole family? Likewise, man are getting more wicked that it is not easy finding someone with true motives. Selfishness is reigning. Or that almost everybody have no trust on who to give his or her heart to anymore.
Singles tend to make the most of their "singlehood" first...almost not wanting to let go. The freedom, the independence, the life that they meant to enjoy and make last as long as can be.
When is the time to get married then? - when you are ready to take responsibility.
- when you are matured enough.
- when you have experienced and enjoy what you hope to experience and enjoy as an individual.
- when you finally believe that living alone is not for you anymore.
- when your biological clock is running out and you want the natural way of conceiving.
- when you found that someone and there's nothing more you can ask for.
- and when you are done pleasing yourself and is committed to please another and a whole family of it.
I fell in love with my daughter the first time I saw her...but my love grew each day. It's like a hunger I cannot fulfill, a thirst I cannot quench. That no matter how much I give, it still feels not enough.
Read my emotional sharing in
Mother and Child as a guest writer to WhatisExquisite.com and feel the love of a mother to a child.
...and tell me if you feel the same way too. Hope you LIKE it ;)
"Get it away from me!!!" You screamed this upon seeing that tiny mouse that have somewhat made it inside your house...and your little one wide eyed and more scared with your screaming and reaction started to feel that she should also be afraid of it. On another side of the town is another commotion when a mother steps up atop a table as she begs her husband to throw away the trash that had been infected with maggots while she unknowingly passes down to her daughter her fear for worms.
DO YOU AGREE WITH ME THAT THE FEAR CAN BE PASSED DOWN?
Notice that in a household, if one parent is scared of a house lizard, more often than not, her children will be too. Or in any rodent actually; a spider, mouse, cockroach, worms. Psychological effect is to blame for this, because as children, they look up to their elders (their parents most especially). What is wrong for their parents they believe to be wrong. What is scary is indeed scary. And this usually is carried along even through the years as they grow old.
I should know, because we have one definite kind of thing with a rodent. My mom not liking it, passed along to me and all of my siblings, and now to my daughter. I honestly tried not to show her my fear just so she won't acquire it but its not easy...so there's only me to blame why she now doesn't like "that" rodent.
What of you and your family?
We have to admit that it is not always easy to be a mom. Above all the chores you have to do around the house, the bringing and taking of your children to and from the school, the full time work you do if you are also working, and the demands of your better half...is the burden you carry within yourself if you are being a great mom. If you are being the responsible mom rearing them and guiding them which is your ultimate reason for existing now as a mother. If you are "the best mom" for your family.
Its like providing them food. You are feeding them but are you providing them the right food? Are you meeting their nutritional needs? Daily requirement for the vitamin and mineral need of each family member have to be met through the food served every meal, or if not possible, through supplements. And who better to know but the mom.
Molding and training the children also is another responsibility parents carry. Cleanliness and orderliness have to be instilled to them so they will carry it through as they become their own person. Provision of interesting and visually nice items gives further encouragement. You can demand for their rooms to be neat but give them assistance as to how to do it and to give them ways in managing them. Their used clothes need to have a place to go, give them nice looking
laundry bag. Appropriate things to appropriate places. Jewelries in jewelry boxes, shoes in shoe racks/boxes,
stephen joseph bags or whatever bags in drawers or cases meant for them. Start the training as early as possible. Mold when they are still MOLD-able, and not when they are already stiff and grown using force.
REMEMBER also that children live by example. They will imitate us. Their eyes are focused on us. And they love us too much to want to become just like us.
The home should always be where they want to go back to. They have to feel the love within. There has to be a welcoming atmosphere...not only emotionally but physically too. They have to feel at ease in there and not be questioned and reprimanded in every move they make. And will not be when they have been trained early on. They have to feel the coziness of the place and not see clutters. It will be an added benefit to have wonderfully built place like that of those with the magnificent work done by
Dallas landscaping.
Life at home should be comfortable, filled with warmth and love. And a deserving "You're the best, Mom" would make you sigh in relief knowing that you did made it right. And you are indeed the best!
Are you married? Then you will be one of the many people who disagrees with this quotation:
"Adam was the luckiest man; he had no mother-in-law."
Mark Twain
It actually is not proven right all the time...but I hear of it a lot of times. I have no reason to take sides since I am not married yet. I have no in-laws to love or to hate. But I have seen a lot of in-law to in-laws relationship and good new is, I have heard POSITIVE comments more that negative.
It is a tradition in this country for children to get married and still stay with their families, either with the wife's or the husband's. It is normal to see such arrangement for different reasons. It can be that they had an early marriage and that they are incapable of living on their own yet (it being a 3rd world country, it is not surprising!), or that the couple are both working and they need the trusted guidance of their parents for their kids they will leave behind with a carer, or the warm compassionate love and tendering Filipino's have for the elders that we cannot just leave them in the care of others ( institutions). This arrangement then became the reason for two families to stay in one place, more often, the in-laws staying with the newly wed...thus became your new family.
New family...extended family to be specific, are a lot harder than raising your very own in the sense that you are all adults reared by different people with different attitudes, different views of things, different everything that suddenly have to live together and adjust to everything. It is only natural that not everything you want will be the same as their wants. The key then so as not to have the same thought as mark twain is to have GIVE AND TAKE between your in-law and you. It actually is not a written rule but the appropriate rule that both ends should do likewise for a successful and contented life together.
It isn't everywhere that you find a family that loves all their relatives. There always is someone you can't resist not overly liking. BUT no matter what, they are your relatives and you have one root, one family tree, one (or more) DNA in your system that is identical. YOU GOT TO LOVE THEM.
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